Control and Respect. Getting married to somebody that you think needs to be changed and/or controlled is crazy. People are who they are.
In the long run, you must be able to answer YES to the following 2 questions to stay married:
1) Do you love them JUST the way they are?
With all their flaws and/or crazy ideas, fobias, habits?
Without ever needing to change them?
2) Are you willing to ALWAYS treat them with respect, regardless of the situation and/or how angry you are? Are you willing to say that you will never call each other names and/or be disrespectful to each other in any way? Ever.
If you cannot say YES to both questions - find somebody else.
