Dive deep, fast.
Have you ever met somebody and all you could talk about was the weather, your job, their job, "how everybody is doing", or a number of other shallow interactions that do not get you to even remember the answers?
What is it that prevents us from jumping right in, with intensity and curiosity, in a way that makes us lean in, listen, and hang to every word? Is it because we are not supposed to engage deeply with somebody we just met? Is it because we are concerned about stepping into meaningful feelings or sensibilities? Is it because they may take what we say the wrong way? Or because they may get the wrong impression about us?
What would happen if we stop worrying about these things for a moment and jump right in into something like:
Imagine how a conversation around these themes would develop. You probably are curious already so go ahead and try it ... and enjoy every bit of the deeper connections you will make.
Have you ever met somebody and all you could talk about was the weather, your job, their job, "how everybody is doing", or a number of other shallow interactions that do not get you to even remember the answers?
What is it that prevents us from jumping right in, with intensity and curiosity, in a way that makes us lean in, listen, and hang to every word? Is it because we are not supposed to engage deeply with somebody we just met? Is it because we are concerned about stepping into meaningful feelings or sensibilities? Is it because they may take what we say the wrong way? Or because they may get the wrong impression about us?
What would happen if we stop worrying about these things for a moment and jump right in into something like:
- What their views are about the meaning of life
- What their dreams are ... and what the greatest obstacles to overcome are
- Why their marriage or a certain relationship did not last ... what worked and did not work
- What events in their life meaningfully changed the course of everything
- What their greatest fears and joys are
Imagine how a conversation around these themes would develop. You probably are curious already so go ahead and try it ... and enjoy every bit of the deeper connections you will make.
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