Wednesday, June 10, 2009

What is the best way to avoid getting your feelings hurt?

Put things in perspective.

You probably have heard the saying that nobody can hurt you unless you let them. This is actually a very real and powerful idea. Hard to implement sometimes -- but when you do, you can really start taking control of these negative emotions.

So, how do you take control? Learn to "distance" yourself from the situation and always remember yourself - what is important to "you". Distancing refers to putting things in perspective (e.g., the health of a child vs. the situation in question). Remembering yourself refers to not letting others decide what is important to you. What other people think of you is really none of your business.

Distancing and remembering yourself have the effect of all of a sudden freeing you from the grip of negative emotions. You can then objectively observe what is happening and how you are being dragged into something against your will.

By the way, taking things less seriously also helps : )

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