Wednesday, June 17, 2009

How can you evaluate if your current love is good for the long run?

Look beyond the person.

Understand the environment they grew up in - their childhood, their family, their relationship with parents, friends, extended family - and try to figure out the "core principles" they could have developed because of these experiences.

Understand the good (e.g., a happy, stable childhood) and the bad (e.g., poverty, abuse). And remember that, our DNA defines who we really are and how we are inclined to process these experiences.

Looking at a person's extended world is an incredible predictor of who they are and/or who they will become. If you like what you see -- that is a good thing. Are there exceptions? Sometimes : )

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